Thursday, 16 December 2010

From a time when only the Newsagents was open on a Sunday.....

Reading and commenting on Five Centres blog post about various old supermarket brands kicked off a bit of reminiscing within me this week.  Of course in the context of the piece, I thought about the different brands I had possibly seen in a little over 25 years.  It also got me thinking about how our family shopped back in those days.

My parents did frequent the Supermarket on a weekly basis, right from the late 70's when they got married.  However, unlike most modern families, this wasn't their only shopping trip of the week.  Many a Saturday morning would be spent picking up the Fruit and Vegetables, Meat, Toiletries and Household Cleaners, Haberdashery and Hardware needed for the following week from the various market stalls and the small independent shops in the town centre.  Don't forget that this was in an age when the only shops that opened on a Sunday were probably the Newsagents, Petrol Station and the odd Convenience Store if you were lucky.  Most supermarkets only had one night a week where they would open late, and even then it would be until 20:00.  Obviously to any younger readers who might stumble across this blog (god I make myself sound old!), this would seem a far cry from the one-stop shops we have now which come in the form of Asda, Morrisons, Sainsbury's and Tesco that only close for two days of the year now.  Having your shopping delivered by these shops wasn't even thought of.  If you were lucky, one of the local 'Corner Shops' might drop it off in the van whilst they were out and about but the price of your shopping would be alot more.

These memories date back to a time when the housewife was more common in the average household.  They would have more time at home to carry out the chores and therefore had plenty of free time at weekends to do the shopping and spend with the family.  By this comment I don't wish to come across as sexist.  In fact I would go as far as to say that they should be celebrated for the way they kept all the family together and how their homes were run efficiently.  No mean feat in my eyes.

As times have changed, so have people and families.  There are alot more families where both parents go out to work to keep a good standard of living.  This is clearly where the one-stop shop comes into its own.  A couple of hours can be spent in one place picking up all the items you need.  For the sake of a small charge, you can even do it from the comfort of your armchair and have it delivered to your door.  Some believe this is a small price to pay for the time and stress it saves, particularly if ill-behaved children really get on your nerves!

In our house, we still do a weekly shop to the supermarket.  Mrs. S does this most weeks at the moment as she is still on maternity leave from work.  This is interspersed with the odd visit to Costco for bulk buying of certain items and some meat.  The main meat purchases are made through our local butcher.  These are a dying breed on our local High Streets unfortunately as people look no further than the supermarket.  Our local family run butcher produces first class quality meat.  I hope to enjoy his meat for many years to come.

What I hoped to achieve with this post was to illustrate the changes in our shopping habits due to how peoples lifestyle have altered.  From where we currently are with our lifestyles and habits, I wonder how they will change next.

Friday, 3 December 2010

Me Me Me

Nicked from Queen Margot and the Supper Club, I thought I'd have a go a these answers.  Like Suzy Norman said in her post, please feel free to have a go at this yourself:

1. What was the last thing you put in your mouth?

It was the last piece of a Mars Bar. An evening snack which I nearly always say I will not give into temptation but end up doing so.

2. Where was your profile picture taken?

That reminds me, I must get one sorted.  Hopefully one that doesn't make the reader click the cross in the top right hand corner.

3. Can you play Guitar Hero?

No.

4. Name someone who made you laugh today?

Seen as I've been at home due to the snow, the person who has made me laugh will be little Miss S., our 7 month old.

5. How late did you stay up last night and why?

I was in bed by about 10:50 last night.  This is the latest we had both been in bed for a while.  It isn't really feasible to stay up late too often with a youngster in the house who chooses to get up anytime after 6am.  I had contemplated staying up to watch some of the Cricket which wouldn't have been a bad idea judging by the first days play!

6. If you could move somewhere else, would you?

We're happy where we are at the moment in our Semi Detached house.  I dream of having my own detached property with a bit of land but I can't see that happening in this lifetime.

7. Ever been kissed under fireworks?

I think so but I can't be sure.

8. Which of your friends lives closest to you?

I have a mate who lives about a mile and a half away.  He's always good for a pot of tea and a natter about nothing important, just how blokes should be!  He has a taste for the odd Real Ale aswell.

9. Do you believe exes can be friends?

Not really.  In my opinion you need to make a clean break and not have the ex lingering in the background whilst you are trying to get your new relationship off the ground.  In my case I should have tried harder to make the splits less acrimonious.  Splitting is hard enough without things getting nasty.  Also, I would like to think that if I bumped into any of my ex's that it wouldn't be terribly uncomfortable (I know it's probably naive of me!).

10. How do you feel about Dr.Pepper?

One of the soft drinks I do enjoy.

11. When was the last time you cried really hard?

I'll pass on that one.

12. Who took your profile picture?

See question 2.

13. Who was the last person you took a picture of?

Intentionally Little Miss S.  Unintentionally a man walking his dog in the snow yesterday whilst I was out grabbing pictures of the tress in the local park covered in snow.
14. Was yesterday better than today?

Probably as I ended up having the day off from work as I couldn't get the car out of the street due to the snow.  An unexpected day at home is always welcome, even if it did mean I missed work.  I will have to work the day missed back at some stage, but that will come when the weather improves.

15. Can you live a day without TV?

I'm ashamed to say that probably not.  We enjoy a fair bit of TV and also make use of our Sky+ box to watch the desired programmes when we like.
16. Are you upset about anything?

Not today, apart from the fact that we're cut off from the main roads due to the amount of snow in our cul-de-sac.  Also, I am worried about when we will next get some milk and bread as jo public are panic buying these at the moment.

17. Do you think relationships are ever really worth it?

I would say yes.  I'm blessed with having a wonderful wife who is a great mother too.  Our relationship has been really tested over the last 18 months with plenty of bad stuff thrown at us but I think we're getting through it slowly and it is worth sticking with.
18. Are you a bad influence?

I can be I suppose.  I can be lazy at times, again something I shouldn't be proud of.  That then rubs off on the people around me.  I'm also a shopaholic, particularly in music and DVD shops.  I've been trying to cut back but I've not managed it so far.
19. Night out or night in?

It would have to be a Night Out seen as we don't have any of those these days.  I'm equally happy with a night in, the Sky+ remote and good bottle of wine or beer.

20. What items could you not go without during the day?

Mrs. S has just answered this as my iPhone.  It never really leaves my side.  One of my favourite purchases of the year.
21. Who was the last person you visited in the hospital?

Mrs. S in May this year, just after the birth of little Miss. S.

22. What does the last text message in your inbox say?

It's from Tom Smith out of Editors.  The message is a mailshot, telling fans what the band have been up to recently.

23. How do you feel about your life right now?

That is a question I hadn't considered until I started writing this blog entry.  Overall I'd say reasonably happy.  I have wonderful family and I'm trying to make the most of little Miss S before she grows up.  Other than a bad back I'm in good health.  I have a job with a steady income.  The picture at work has a gloomy outlook at the moment my department is under review and reorganisation at the moment.  Hopefully we'll come through that still having a job.
24. Do you hate anyone?

I would say not.  I don't have the time to be bitter about anything or anyone.  I'd say I get annoyed by certain people from time to time, but no hatred.
25. If we were to look in your facebook inbox, what would we find?

I have a facebook account but to be honest I only use it for nosing at other people and what they are up to.  My inbox hardly gets used.

26. Say you were given a drug test right now, would you pass?
Providing a drugs test didn't include alcohol, I'd be fine.

27. Has anyone ever called you perfect before?

No one is that daft, not even Mrs S.

28. What song is stuck in your head?

True Faith by New Order.  I've been listening to the Substance album this morning and this was the last track I heard.
29. Someone knocks on your door at 2:00am, who do you want it to be?

I wouldn't want anyone knocking on my door at 2am, unless they really needed me.

30. Wanna have grandkids by the time you're 50?


It would be nice as I would get to appreciate the grandchildren whilst I'm still young enough to do things with.  However, I wouldn't wish for little Miss S to have children at an early age!


31. Name something you have to do tomorrow.

Clear the road outside of snow so that I may be able to get the car out of the street.
32. Do you think too much or too little?

I think far too much and more often than not, it makes things worse.
33. Do you smile a lot?

I would say not as I'm a natural worrier about things.  I don't find it easy to put a brave face on things neither

Wednesday, 1 December 2010

The Element of Surprise

As it's coming to the Festive Season, I've been doing a bit of online shopping for my presents for Mrs. S.  As with previous years, I've had them delivered to either my work address or to the mother-in-laws as she's retired and home most days.

Earlier this week, Mrs. S mum telephoned me whilst I was at home to inform me that the latest delivery had been received.  Straight away when she called I went into another room so that I could talk to her without Mrs. S eavesdropping.  When I returned to the lounge after the conversation, Mrs. S tried to find out what I had ordered.  Naturally I gave nothing away and told her she had to wait.

Here's the thing.  She tries this every year and cannot resist trying to find out what I've bought her.  Each year, I don't offer any information.  You would have thought by now that she would have learnt not to ask me daft questions like that!  Myself as an adult who doesn't find Christmas as exciting as when he was a child (although that will hopefully change over the coming years with having little Miss S around), doesn't want to know what people of bought him.  I still like the idea of opening a present up on Christmas Day with that element of surprise.  Also, I really cannot understand these people who try to find out what they've been bought.

Conversely when buying gifts for family and friends, I try to be discrete in finding out.  Again, I like the present to be a surprise to them.  I will never forget visiting a friends house many years ago, a couple of days before Christmas.  All their presents were wrapped and under the tree.  His mum picked up one of the gifts and asked "Is that the hairdryer you asked me if I wanted?".  This I just didn't understand.  Why ask your mum exactly what they want for Christmas? More to the point, if she knows what it is, why bother wrapping it?

The surprise of what a Christmas present might be is an important part of the spirit for me.  Essentially this is what the day is all about.  Yes there is the big lunch and quaffing of alcohol but the whole idea of getting together is to share the gifts.  If these aren't made to be special, then what hope do you have for getting in the Christmas spirit?

Sunday, 21 November 2010

Adjusting to Parenting

Our little daughter is just over six months old now.  It only feels like yesterday that I brought her home with Mrs. S from Scunthorpe Hospital to settle in.  They have been filled with joy, laughter, worry, tears and intense learning.

Before little Miss S was born who is our first child, we were told by numerous people on various occasions that our lives would change and how difficult things would be.  It got to the point where I was getting sick of the doom and gloom that we were told by everyone.  We both knew we were heading into a new chapter of our lives which would be completely life changing, but as most new parents will say, you just cannot comprehend how much.  This was made worse by the horror stories relating to sleeping, mum and dad not eating proper meals for months and not getting much done round the house.  We just didn't know which way to turn.

However, I can safely say as I sit here at 28 weeks, that it hasn't been as bad as first thought.  I don't think I'll ever get over how fast things change when you first have a baby, and not just small changes neither!  From that point of view, the doom and gloomers were right.  We don't seem to have had problems to the extent that other people have had though.  We're lucky that she seems to sleep through most nights.  There have been a couple of times where Mrs. S has been up with her through the night, usually when she's not very well.  We've also managed to get proper meals, nearly all the time.

Where we have found it challenging is keeping on top of the household general running jobs like cleaning, washing, ironing, remembering important things like paying bills and peoples birthdays (well OK, I have, not Mrs. S).  We seem to go through phases of doing well with it which are swiftly followed by stuff piling up again.  Don't get me wrong, we haven't been without clean clothes, a meal on the table or not paid the credit card bill.  We just seemed to be up against it at times.

I'll admit here that I've found it more challenging than Mrs. S.  She has taken to motherhood like a natural, has managed to keep the house going and keep me in check at the same time!  I've struggled to juggle my home life with going to work, where things seem to be getting busier and busier.
Selfishly, I'm missing having the time for my hobbies such as listening to my music, listening to radio and my reading.  I do get a bit of listening in when I travel to and from work, but sadly little Miss S seems to prefer nursery rhymes to The Libertines or BBC 6 Music.  I will keep trying though as I would like her to get her music tastes from me.

I have also been worried about how we are coping financially and how we will cope over the next few years.  So far I'm happy to say that we've managed to stay in the black.  We are both natural savers who haven't previously had huge debts to deal with.  This has put us on the correct footing right from the start.  I just hope that we can keep it up through the next few years.  This might prove a challenge in the current financial climate.  Only time will tell.

The experiences I've shared above are undoubtedly nothing out of the ordinary for parents to new born children.  It probably has done me some good to sit, think about this blog entry and put it all into perspective.  Overall we've gone through a steep learning curve this last six months and managed to get through it.  I'd best buckle up though, as the ride from hereon in will no doubt be just has hectic, head scratching and fun.

Tuesday, 2 November 2010

Thoughts of Lily



It was announced yesterday that Lily Allen has unfortunately suffered a miscarriage.  What's worse is that this is the second one she has experienced.  

Mrs. S and myself are in the position of understanding what Lily will be going through at the moment.  When we were trying for our little Miss S, my good lady miscarried at five weeks gone.  We had all the excitement of actually getting pregnant, especially as we really wanted to start a family, and then it was snatched away from us.  All we felt was despair, the not believing that you are meant to be parents.  Also, no one could say or do anything to make you both feel better.  We were lucky that we had the support of both of our families.  It was really needed, especially as our marriage and relationship was really tested and completely changed over the coming months.  Sometimes I really wonder how we managed to get through it and get to where we are now.  Lily and Sam will no doubt feel some or all of these and will be seriously questioning whether it is worth trying again.  

We do hope that they ride the storm and come through this terrible time.  They need to believe that it will happen for them and one day they will be parents.  We are now blessed with a gorgeous little girl who Mrs. S fell pregnant with about eight months after we lost the first pregnancy. Hopefully Lily and Sam will experience the same somewhere in the not too distant future.

All the best Lily, we're all thinking of you.

Friday, 8 October 2010

RIP Norman


As a child, I grew up watching films like A Stitch In Time, On The Beat, Press For Time and The Early Bird.  I can remember watching both grandfathers and dad at some stage cry with laughter at the antics of Norman Pitkin and Mr. Grimsdale.  They all shared a mutual love for Norman Wisdoms brand of slapstick comedy and it was only a matter of time before it would make an impression on me.

Casting him in that first role in the film Trouble In Store turned out to be an inspired choice, as what followed was a number of classic films which have proved very popular here in the UK and abroad.  Whilst the comedy is simple, it is clean, something that you don't see today.

Fat Mancunian mentioned on Twitter earlier this week that there probably is a whole generation of younger people that don't who Norman Wisdom is or will have never seen his work.  I agree with his comment that it is a sobering thought.  You can only feel that they've missed out on seeing such a talented actor and his films.

The scene where Pitkin is holding onto the runaway lawnmower in The Early Bird is one of my favourite ones.  Unfortunately there isn't a clip of this on Youtube to share with you.

However, here's the opening scenes from The Early Bird, including Norman accidentally tearing wallpaper off the staircase, a personal favourite of Alex Lester as he mentions in this weeks blog.  Another scene that has the ability to tickle me is the Council Meeting Scene in Pressed For Time.  If you haven't viewed these scenes before (highly unlikely I hope), I've included them below:






Rest In Peace Norman.  Many thanks for all the laughter.

Thursday, 30 September 2010

"It's Not Even the End of September!"

I hate to admit this but it appears that Christmas is only a couple of months away.  Every year I usually complain that we as a family get organised far too early and that it dominates our thoughts until it arrives.  All I want to do is say "all this hassle for one bloody day!".  Needless to say that protests fall on deaf ears.

Take our visit to Costco last weekend for instance.  In true Cash and Carry style, their huge section in the middle that usually has garden tools, climbing frames and barbecues had been transformed to show their latest festive stock.  It wasn't even the end of September for heavens sake!  In fact, all retailers seem to get their Christmas stock on sale earlier and earlier.

I don't think I'm alone in these thoughts though either.  I know a few other friends and colleagues who get sick of seeing decorations and various must have presents whenever they have to go shopping.  Also, the playing of Christmas songs way before the time is a definite way to put people off.

Although I do protest about how early we start shopping (usually before Bonfire Night), it does feel good when we have all the presents bought before the beginning of December.  It then makes the build-up to Christmas all the more enjoyable.  (Yes, this is me admitting that Mrs S is right, AGAIN!)

On the whole I do enjoy Christmas....once we get to the week before.  That for me is when the present shopping is out of the way and we get to the good bit of buying the food and doing all the prep for Christmas at home (more on this nearer the time).  It promises to be more enjoyable than before as it's our daughters first Christmas.  Admittedly, she'll not know a great deal about it.  It still doesn't stop everyone spoiling her though.  For those reasons, I'm aiming to curb my moaning and try to get into the spirit, something which I've done for a number of years and is very habitual.  Wish me luck